HOW MANY BOYFRIENDS DO YOU HAVE: How Girls Get it Right

Ladies Explain How They Manage Numerous Boyfriends:

It is common nowadays for girls to have as many boyfriends as possible. They have one for paying bills, partying, sex, money, clothes, jewelry, gadgets etc. Relationships have now become business ventures where people engage in order to make profit and benefit in kind or cash while some ladies are just being polyamorous (Laughs). While some ladies still hold to some moral values, others have simply tossed them out through the window. 

This article is not by any means trying to judge any person on their choices when it comes to relationships, but it is a regard on the moral standing on which our relationships are based. Living a double life and or keeping several relationships is not only a girls' thing by default. Boys and men are caught up in the same loop and the same questions posed to ladies on this issue can and should as well be asked the guys: many will be found wanting. Right?

On like some ladies, Helena Fodeke  on this issue thinks relationships should be sacred and committed to some future goal which is according to her, marriage. She writes: "When I was dating, I had only one boyfriend to whom I'm married now. I always advise my girlfriend's to stick to one boyfriend at a time. I generally don't believe in dating casually. One should be able to see a future in a relationship before embarking on it. My philosophy is to put all your eggs in one basket and take very good care of that basket." 

Conversely, Sheila Johnson thinks that girls and boys should date as many as possible but goes ahead to caution that her position is not an advocacy for promiscuity. In her own words she holds that: "I think girls and boys should date as many people as they can. It’s all about learning who you are, what you have to offer, and what you want/expect/need in another person. I’m not advocating having sexual relationships with hundreds of different people, but certainly speaking with and learning about that many is not too much to do in the name of this serious vein of research."  

Again, does one really need as many to find out what they want in a relationship just in the name of testing the waters of dating? Are girls who prefer having many boyfriends believers in the ideology that relationships will end when lust is fulfilled so they want to minimize the effects of heartbreak? Or some are just so sex-hungry, materialistic and exploitative? These rhetorical questions as earlier stated do generate lots of diverse answers. All the same, for what ever reasons you have chosen to keep a multitude of guys in your repertoire, my view is that secretly maintaining two or more "exclusive" relationships seriously jeopardizes your chances of ever transitioning to an exclusive relationship with one man even when you've made up your mind to settle down for marriage. Among other things, the discovery of your past could make it very difficult for your chosen "him" to trust you. 


For the ladies and for us guys, my only word off caution is:

1. Think carefully about your values, beliefs, and self-image. What is your personal moral code? Once you answer this question, you'll be better equipped to make decisions on whether or not pursuing multiple relationships is the best thing for you.
2. Remind yourself of these axioms: do unto others as you'd have them do unto you, and do nothing to others you would not have done to you.

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